Making Self Care a Priority
By: Jennifer Hackbart, BASc, MSW, RSW
Self care! Self care! Self care! We’ve all heard this promoted from the rooftops and yet it remains greatly neglected within our society. I’m sure the thought “It’s so nice outside I wish I had time to go for a walk” sounds all too familiar to most of us. Well, here is your opportunity to make change! July 24th is International Self Care Day.
What is self-care?
Self-care is defined as the act of looking after ourselves. I often relate self care to a flight emergency protocol -a passenger must first fit their own oxygen mask on before helping others. The idea being, if we don’t first care for ourselves we will be less effective in all other realms of life.
Self care is often portrayed as the “big ideas”, but in reality it is simply the small day to day decisions we all make. Do I choose to finish the laundry or go for a walk? Do I choose to sit and play with my kids or wash the dishes? Do I choose to make plans with a friend or send off a few more work emails before bed? If we are seldom choosing the nurturing/relaxing option, we are likely not meeting our self-care needs.
How do I improve my self-care?
Firstly, improved self-care requires a level of self awareness where we are able to identify our own needs and take steps to fulfill them. Take some time to focus on what your body, mind and emotions are telling you. Are you worn out? Does your mind often use those “should” statements? Do you notice you’re always doing things for others and feel a bit of frustration regarding this? These are all signs we may be neglecting our self-care needs.
Secondly, improved self-care requires a change in belief around it’s importance. Most people believe “the longer we tough it out, the tougher we are, and therefore the more successful we will be” (Anchor & Gelian, 2016). In reality, many of us simply need a reality check. We need to realize that when self-care becomes a priority, the potential for success actually increases. Our mood and energy levels increase, allowing us to not only do more but also enjoy more of what we do.
Here is an example of how a change in belief has the potential to change your behaviour:
Thirdly, establish routines. Getting started is usually the hardest step in changing behaviours. Set small self-care goals and work these into your daily life. Then, build on these goals once effective routines are established.
Here are a few ideas to get you started!
Qualia Staff’s Favourite Self Care Strategies
- Lay in a hammock and reading
- Going on a hike
- Taking a nap
- Starbucks date with a good friend
- Going to the gym
- Lighting a candle
- Having a glass of wine on the patio
- Using essential oils
- Playing video games
- Riding a bike
- Getting outside on lunch breaks
- Spending time with good friends and family
- Taking the dog for a walk
- Put my phone on airplane mode for an hour
- Lay a blanket down and watch the clouds
More great ideas can be found at:
The group is now starting January 17th!
To all readers – we now have a location at The Boardwalk in West Waterloo, and are so thrilled to be here! Our doors officially opened today, so please feel free to drop in, say hello, be nosy and even ask for a tour (if we can accommodate you while rooms are not being used :). Our Andrew St location in Kitchener and Cao Lane location in Six Nations still remain open as well, if you’re wondering.
As we expand and open this new location, I have given a lot of thought as to what the mission and vision of Qualia is and how this new location fits into it. Qualia, founded to be “a place for people to meet their full potential and become their most authentic selves” has a vision of “unlocking human potential”. We do this by providing services (psychotherapy, coaching and training) grounded in a model of change called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. As I reflect on what I love the most about our new digs (besides the beautiful location, fantastic community in the Medical Centre at The Boardwalk, and gorgeous West Waterloo views from our windows) it is that Qualia is making CBT more accessible within our community.
Why you might ask, is that important? What is so great about CBT?
Let me tell you. CBT is a game changer, and life changer. It is a model of change that focuses on an individual’s thoughts, behaviours, physical self and situations to create big change in an area we all love to feel good in – our emotional self. CBT uses a system of techniques to help people completely restructure their thoughts, engage in balanced healthy thinking, and to enable behaviour change. CBT has been demonstrated in thousands of clinical studies to be the most effective way to help people overcome depression, anxiety and other mental health disorders. Do you also know however, that CBT has also been demonstrated to help people improve their health, quit smoking, and achieve change like exercising regularly, getting to your preferred healthy body weight, and reaching your professional goals?
SO, if you fit into any of these above areas, CBT can help you be healthier and happier. I know personally, CBT techniques have not only helped me have balanced thoughts about various distressing life situations but has also helped me lose 30-40 pounds after pregnancies, has helped me reach my professional goals, and has helped me choose healthier foods and nutrition choices. With some clients I have seen, we have worked on anxiety and depression related goals and in just a few weeks have seen symptoms of depression and anxiety go away. I have also helped adolescents and adults achieve goals of being more assertive, communicating better with family, having more confidence, exercising more, going on more dates, losing/gaining weight, overcoming phobias like driving, flying, travel, and more! CBT can help you achieve almost any life goal. So, if you want to learn more or find out how we can help you – call and book a free consultation today!